What is the difference between kinky and

I clearly remember the first time I heard the word "kinky. While the band was on a break and we were all sitting around having a Tom Collins, one of the guys used the word "kinky" in a story he was telling.

I interrupted, "What's kinky? You may have the same question I had then, as a relative rookie in the complex world of nontraditional, authentic sexuality: "What's the difference between being kinky and having a fetish? Being kinky usually means enhancing sexual intimacy with your partner by adding new and creative elements to sex, such as covering each other in whipped cream and licking it off. In that example, the whipped cream is secondary to the sexual experience that you and your partner create together.

In other words, you could have just as much good, kinky fun by wearing Star Trek costumes or speaking in different accents. Having a fetish, on the other hand, means that you as an individual are sexually aroused by a specific object, body part, or role-play even without a partner. See a translation. Highly-rated answerer.

NishanYeah For example, a man who made sexually suggestive remarks to underage girls would be considered a pervert. It's basically that the behavior is both socially inappropriate and unwanted. NishanYeah Yes, kinky does not mean something negative, just that it is outside the norm.

NishanYeah if someone has like a foot fetish for exemple, they could be called kinky. What if a man kill a cat, could I call him a pervert? NishanYeah If the man killed the cat with a sexual motivation, he would be a pervert. But because the kinky sex has become separated from this niche community which had its own rules and regulations, the idea of negotiation and pre-agreed limits are no longer an automatic given. You cannot be too clear about consent.

Talk about it, discuss it over message or email. Ask direct questions. Do not assume. Some experienced partners will play without safe words, which is kind of controversial even among the BDSM community.

I just think that kinky usually has a more sexual connotation to it than freaky does. You would say that a series of events might be freaky, but not kinky necessarily :lol:. I honestly don't know. Kaiser Guest. The way it was explained to me is, 'freaky' is when you don't go too far beyond a typical routine. By that, it is meant, you do the usual sexual things, but you might add some food, lotion, or use toys -- nothing too, too extreme.